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Judith Gruenfeld

In Memorium
July 28, 1945 - May 3, 2019

This is a page about Mom's writings and more. All have implicit copyright protection. Duplication or distribution in any means is prohibited.
Much thanks to Mom's cousin Joan for providing several early photos and to Mom's "niece" and my "cousin" Amy for photos and a voicemail.
Do you have any writings, voicemails, recipes, or photos of Mom? Please send them along for me to post here.

Words of Mom
Voice of Mom
Recipes of Mom
Images of Mom

I needed to extensively edit much of the formatting from the OCR scans for her work below, but I didn't really proofread. Let me know if you notice any types of errors.

* There's Always a Fly in the Ointment
I don't have precise dates for when Mom wrote these, but she had asked me to type them up and I see that the file was last saved on October 26, 1997. I do recall quite well the Dog & Cupcake and the University Mail stories, and the Call Waiting and White Milk stories a bit.

* Miscellaneous Short Poetry
These were likely written after the above. Almost all of these have handwritten markings on the right: CC, P.C, Y, and/or CP. I don't know to what they refer but I've listed them and any other of her notes below each poem's title.

* A Town Called Yemenvelt and Other Stories

* Special Son
There are two very slightly different typed versions of this in addition to some handwritten notes. I incorporated as much text as I could, and marked alternate text as such. Mom dated this January, 2004, though I don't know if the handwritten notes were added later. Many photos follow the text.

* Letters From Grandma
It took me a few stories to figure out that this is not her recounting letters from her Grandma, but it instead is from the perspective of she as Grandma, writing to who she hoped were her grandchildren, my children. My brother Ron is portrayed as Jeffrey, while I am portrayed as Eric. Apparently, I had a girl who we named Becky, no doubt in part after my Great-Grandma Becky (Mom's Grandma), and another daughter.
There are extensive beautiful illustrations by Carrie Becker but I'm hoping to receive permission from her to include them before doing so. Does anyone know who she is and how to contact her?

* The Long Road Home
This one is autobiographical. Some names are slightly changed; Mom refers to herself as Sandy.

* American Jewish Times
These are c.2005-2006 and perhaps earlier and/or later, though very few of them had dates. I preserved the order in which I found them, though I don't know if that is chronological order. I intended to seek permission from the publisher before including these articles, but the newspaper is defunct, for about a decade as best I can tell. I then consulted with a professional journalist friend of mine who said, "Oh, if your mom is the writer and the outlet is gone I'd say you're in the clear." These needed extensive proofreading due to errors in the original plus errors in the OCR scanning, so let me know if you catch any that I didn't. Note that the email address shown on some is no longer valid.

  I downloaded her voicemails from my phone and converted them to the very common mp3 format so everyone can listen (technical details: 64kbs & 1 channel since the source would not have been higher than this). You will need music/audio software on your device, but most phones and computers should already be able to play mp3 files. I tested it to work with Google Chrome and Microsoft Edge. I encountered problems with Microsoft Internet Explorer. I'll check with Dad and Ron to see if they have any. You are welcome to send any that you have to me.

2018 April 19 - Her mother's move

2018 April 27 - Visit

2018 June 10

2018 June 30 - Cousin Jeremy

2018 August 10

2018 August 14 - Her mother's health

2018 August 15 - Her mother's health

2018 August 23 - Her mother's health

2018 September 15 - Funeral plans for her mother

2018 November 14 - Thanksgiving plans

2018 November 15 - I had a little cold during this time

2018 November 17 - I had a little cold during this time

2019 January 3 - Cousin Max's Bar Mitzvah

2019 March 13 - Her final, ominous voicemail to me

2020 April 22 - The Zoom video conference with around 45 people to commemorate Mom on the 1 year anniverary (Hebrew calendar) of her death (16:30)

2020 April 22 - The transcript of the above including the Hebrew / phonetic transliteration / translation

2020 April 22 - The full version of the above which includes before and after chatter (28:16)

A screenshot of the above from cousin Gary K (click to see full size)

A screenshot of the above from Rochelle N (click to see full size)


Mom submitted recipes to a couple of recipe book fundraisers. Since they were her six recipes before submitting, I can print them below. I will look for others and you can send any to me that you know were hers.
I have an extra copy of the Sisterhood book for anyone in the family that wants it.

P. 15 of Treasured Recipes of Sisterhood Congregation Ahavat Shalom, Volume II, Lakewood, New Jersey. 1989
2 & 1/2 c. sliced, cooked cold potatoes
3/4 c. mayonnaise
1/2 c. chopped onion
1 tsp. vinegar
1 tsp. sugar
2 hard-boiled eggs, sliced or chopped
Celery seed to taste
1/4 c. chopped celery and/or green pepper (optional)
Mix all ingredients and refrigerate.
My note: I've made this one many times, adding a little more vinegar plus black pepper and paprika, but omitting the celery seed (although dill seed might be a good substitute).

P. 15 of Treasured Recipes of Sisterhood Congregation Ahavat Shalom, Volume II, Lakewood, New Jersey. 1989
8 oz. macaroni
2 Tbsp. onion flakes, soaked in cold water and drained
1 large carrot, scraped and grated
1/2 green pepper, diced
1 stalk celery, diced
1/2 c. mayonnaise
1 Tbsp. vinegar
1 tsp. salt
1 tsp. sugar
[Mom handwrote in the following note: opt. celery seed, cilantro]
Put cooked and drained macaroni in a large bowl. Add remaining ingredients. Stir gentle until blended. Cover and refrigerate.

P. 17 of Treasured Recipes of Sisterhood Congregation Ahavat Shalom, Volume II, Lakewood, New Jersey. 1989
3/4 c. oil
3/4 c. red wine vinegar
1/4 c. water
1/2 tsp. chopped garlic
1 tsp. oregano [Mom handwrote in the following note: opt.]
1 Tbsp. sugar
1/4 tsp. salt
Dash of pepper
[Mom handwrote in the following note: If using white vinegar add 1 tsp. minced onion]
Mix all ingredients together and refrigerate.
My note: I've also made this one many times with some modifications.

P. 37 of Treasured Recipes of Sisterhood Congregation Ahavat Shalom, Volume II, Lakewood, New Jersey. 1989
1/2 tsp. chopped garlic
2 tsp. onion flakes
1/4 c. oil
1 (28 oz.) can tomato puree
1/2 c. water
1 tsp. salt
1 tsp. basil
1 tsp. oregano
1 bay leaf
Saute garlic and onion in oil until golden. Add remaining ingredients; cover. Simmer for 30 minutes, stirring now and then.

P. 5 of Treasured Recipes From the Families of Twenty-One Plus. 1994
My note: I'm not including this recipe because I think it was mistakenly labelled as being submitted from Mom. It's very unlikely that she would have submitted a recipe that includes Tabasco (even mild salsa was borderline too hot for her!), grated Parmesan cheese (which she dislikes), or clams (not only is it not kosher, but she also has a shellfish allergy). Plus, I don't recall ever her ever serving anything related to clams growing up.

P. 26 of Treasured Recipes From the Families of Twenty-One Plus. 1994
5 eggs
1 c. Bisquick
1/2 c. oil
1/2 c. grated Parmesan
1/2 lb. chopped Mozzarella
1 small onion, chopped
3 medium squash
Slice squash thin. Add remaining ingredients and mix together. Grease pan with butter. Bake in 350 oven about 45 minutes until brown on top.
My note: I also have doubts about this being Mom's recipe, but not enough to omit it from this page.

Pp. 65-66 of Treasured Recipes From the Families of Twenty-One Plus. 1994
Graham crackers (plain or honey)
1 small box instant vanilla pudding, prepared
Chocolate wafer cookies
1 small box instant chocolate pudding, prepared
1 (8 oz.) container Cool Whip
Maraschino cherries
Place ingredients in 9 inch square pan in order given. Decorate with sprinkles and cherries. Let cool in refrigerator.
My note: I know this one IS Mom's recipe, as it was a favorite of her father, my grandpa Abe, and we had it many times.


Click the images to see them full-size in a pop-up window.

Gert and Abe (her parents) before she was born (pre-1945)

Thelma (her aunt), Joan (her cousin), Gert (her mom), Judy (1948-49)



On the back appears to be written 'birthday (10)' (1954)

Joan (her cousin), Mom (1955)

At her cousin Joan's wedding (1969)

Mom, Joan (her cousin) at Joan's wedding (1969)

Ron, Mom, me (pre-1980)

Mom, Ron (rear), me (front), Dad at Ron's Bar Mitzvah (1982)

Dad, Ron, me, Mom at Ron's Bar Mitzvah (1982)

Dad, me, Ron, Mom at Ron's Bar Mitzvah (1982)



Dad, Sylvia (Dad's sister), me, Allen (Sylvia's husband), Mom after my Marathon (2009)

Created May 12, 2019. Most recent update May 3, 2020.